I have to get out of the store. If I don’t, my integrity will succomb to the pre-Christmas
sale at Pier Imports. Maybe the
poinsetta tableware with gold edges, or the cushions embroidered with a red,
green, and gold Merry Christmas. Why not a burlap angel to add to my
collection, or a table centre, or another seasonal runner to alternate with the
decades old model I purchased in the Christmas store in Chemainus, British
Columbia, in 1987. Scented candles
would be nice, in tall, staggered holders as sentinels next to the
fireplace. Why don’t I have these
things, I wonder. Surely, I must
need them to have a great Christmas.
“I have to get out,” I tell my husband, who looks relieved. “Otherwise, I’ll buy something I don’t
need.” Almost suffocated in the
density of Christmas, I head to the till with the object that drew me to the
store in the first place, a
Christmas card holder (well, a photo holder, actually), not the original reindeer floor model I saw at a
colleague’s home a few days before, with filigreed antlers that pinned Christmas card artistry, but a workable
wall-mounted alternative that I could use year round. Less of a conversation piece, but
practical, without storage challenges.
Outside, on the store steps, gulping the preternaturally balmy air on a December
day in Saskatchewan with temperatures above freezing, I realize that my own Christmas essentials do not much
resemble the look in the store.
In the spirit of year-end lists, then, the keys to my
Christmas are :
·
making music,
mostly for liturgy, with unbelievable musicians and singers, over the decades, including
my husband and my children; now, I make music on the harp, too!
·
family close,
on the years that we can all be together, and on the off years, closeness in
spirit always;
·
Christmas
spirit that imbues the entire year;
like summer, Christmas is also a state of mind and spirit that can permeate our actions and thoughts every single day;
·
contact
with friends far away through cards, email, social media; one of the gifts of
technology is the ease of keeping in touch with people who mean so much to us,
but live far away;
·
a pretty
table, with seasonal linens, a table centre, candles, my forty-year
old china
and my mother’s silver;
·
comfort
food, pared down to the core items and each person’s favorites: crêpes, tourtière (now handed down to
my daughter, who prepares it better than I do), salmon mousse, my mother’s
butter tarts, my daughter’s birthday trifle, turkey with my mother’s meat stuffing and gravy, and, just
recently, an addition—chocolate mascarpone crêpes with cherry sauce.
·
games
that can involve everyone, no matter what their predilections might be,
when the joy of playing eclipses winning or losing, especially laughing with
our adult children until our bellies hurt as they reconstruct a game our son
and his friends developed more than a decade ago;
·
the
timelessness of Christmas, as weekdays crumble like dry cookies and hours
meld in delight especially during
·
the interval
between Christmas and New Year, reserved for visits, hours on the harp or
with books, and, always, the writing, with a fire and tree lights in the background.
That December day, engulfed in the periphery of Christmas, the reminder of the essence of
the season for me anchors me. I share that
experience with you, and thank you for reading.